How it works

Finding the right counsellor for you

It’s important to work with a counsellor who you feel is a good fit. Counselling is an enormously rewarding but challenging journey and you’ll want to have someone you can trust accompanying and supporting you. To find out if we could work well together, I offer a brief initial video chat or phone call at no cost and we can discuss whether to make an appointment. If we agree that counselling with me is not the best option for you, I will do my best to direct you to alternative sources of help, and to recommend another counsellor if you wish.

What does a session look like?

Counselling sessions usually last 50 minutes and most people come for one per week. None of that is set in stone and we can talk about your individual needs but regularity can make a big difference, especially at the start.

In your first session I’ll ask you what’s brought you here and we will work from there. I will listen really carefully to whatever you have to say and try to put myself in your shoes and understand what it’s like to be you. I won’t set an agenda for us but work collaboratively with you. You may have heard the expression ‘safe space’: for me, it means somewhere I can be myself without fear of being judged or rejected, including the parts of me that I don’t like, that feel icky, that I’m ashamed of. That’s what I will aim to create for you. Carl Rogers said it best when he wrote,

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.

Because counselling is so personal, I will also check with you from time to time if you feel we are doing things the right way for you. Not everyone needs exactly the same thing so we’ll need to work out what you need.

What will change?

Since every counselling journey is unique, we can’t know for sure what will happen for you, but we can certainly think about what may happen. For example, you may start to feel more compassion towards yourself. You may realise that the past’s hold on you has loosened and past experiences no longer define you. You may find yourself accepting some parts of you despite not liking them, and changing others. You may notice a shift in your relationships with the people around you. You may become more attuned to your own thoughts and feelings and to others’, discover new meanings, find new goals. You may have a clearer idea of what’s important to you, and make changes to create a life that serves you better.